RH Bill - My Take

2 for Life

First came R, a girl. Then S, another girl. We have prayed for 2 kids. And our prayers were answered.

Do we want another child? Would we try for a boy?

After S was pulled out of her nest via cesarean section, my tubes were cut. No egg shall pass those ways again.

Ligation. That was our mutual decision.



I have difficult pregnancies. A congenital defect and a back operation made child-bearing a little bit more complicated. Bedrest was essential, especially at the latter part of the pregnancies. My babies were transverse because of a pelvic tilt, a guarantee of a cesarean delivery every single time.

But without the abovementioned complications, would we want more kids?

Honestly, I think not. We feel that two kids are enough for us. We want to be as immersed as we can in rearing our kids. We don't want to let the moments just past us by. That's why we also planned on the age gap of our children. We want to have fun while rearing them. And I think number and spacing are keys. If we just have two, there would always be one parent available to each kid. If they have a considerable age gap, it's less stressful since one child can already attend to her needs while the other is being taken cared of. Also the elder child can participate in rearing the younger child. And with two kids, the need for a househelp or a yaya is lessen. So there's more opportunities to be more hands-on. But then again, it's me.

RH Bill or no RH Bill, I'm all for letting couples decide the course of their family life. Any mother should have the power over her body. And hopefully, every father or family member understands. She shouldn't be flooded with guilt if her decisions aren't popular or go against the common norm. Especially since she's the one who'll carry the baby to term.  It's her body that would take all the stress, pains and blows of changing hormones.  Bottom line, I believe there is no such thing as a common fit. What works for one womom, wouldn't necessarily  work for another.  So for me, the option to choose should be there, at the very least.  It's the most basic of our rights as humans.  No explanation nor name-calling needed. No question asked.